Fishing on my day off is something that I love to do. One of the things I love about fishing is the people that I get to meet. I have found that the boat ramp is a place of conversations. With other fishos, or someone walking a dog, conversation starter is normally did you get any fish?
A few months ago, when the weather was warmer, I drove to one of my favourite places to fish, Lake Mulawa. It is such a great place to fish when the wind allows. Being a lake and owning a small 12 foot tinny fishing lakes can be a dangerous pass time.
This day the wind was favourable as I left for the hour and and a halve trip to the lake. By the time I got on the water there was a breeze that had sprung up. It was not dangerous or unfishable but it was not comfortable in my boat. I say all this to set the context of what I am about say about the art of conversation.
After fishing for a while and deciding that the winds were picking up and rocking the boat a bit too much to enjoy the moment, I headed back to the boat ramp fishless but happy to have been able to enjoy God’s creation. Packing up the boat and it happened, up walks a guy and asks how are you going, to which I replied OK thanks. I am not totally sure what he heard but I am sure he heard something different from that which I said. His response was along the lines of, oh so you are terrible and life is really bad. Now I get that to some people saying I am OK translates to just getting by or I could be better.
It was very evident to me as our conversation continued that my new found friend entered our conversation with a set agenda. As the conversation continued it was like he was wanting me to say certain things that would give him permission to share the answers to my life’s problems.
Good communication starts with good listening. Whether it is in our relationship with God or with people it is good to slow our response down and hear what is being communicated with a quick or preplanned response.
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.